You don’t have to be the “life of the party” to enjoy yourself


Hey Reader

I had a conversation with a client yesterday that reminded me of something I get asked about a lot.

She’s gearing up for a weekend getaway with friends—one they do every year. It’s the classic fun escape: fancy hotel, great company, and a lot of drinking. Her friends expect it, and, truth be told, she’s always been the one leading the charge—being the life of the party, the loud one, the person everyone counts on to get the fun going.

But this time, as we were talking, something clicked for her. She realised that the person she used to be—the one who had to go big, bold, and drink to fit that role—wasn’t the person she needed to be anymore. In fact, through the work we’ve been doing together, she saw that her identity had started to shift.

She’s still bold, still full of life, still the person who brings energy into a room—but she no longer feels the need to use alcohol as the key to unlock that side of herself.

It was such a powerful realisation for her. She can still be herself—fully present, fun, and connected—without all the vacation day drinking.

Maybe this sounds a little like you? Feeling like alcohol is tied to how others see you, or even how you see yourself? If so, I want you to know that there’s a way to rewrite that story.

It’s not about cutting out alcohol completely (unless that’s what you want), but finding the relationship with it that truly works for you. You can still be the vibrant, driven person everyone loves—without feeling like alcohol has to be part of the equation.

So ask who you want to be around alcohol? How do you want to rewrite your story? Then imagine it's possible (because it is) and ask what that would mean for the rest of your life.

Happy Friday

Anna x

PS: When you’re ready to explore what your own relationship with alcohol could look like, I’m here to help. I offer 1-on-1 coaching that helps brilliant, highly functioning people like you figure out what balance works for you—no judgment, no one-size-fits-all solution. It all starts with a chat to see if we'd be a good fit. Book your free call here.

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